I tried numerous systems to organize our chores, but they just didn’t work. Once we developed a system, it still took several months to work out the kinks. It then served us well for over 10 years, until our oldest went to college.
You may find the same thing. My system might not be a perfect fit for you or your family, but you can tweak it, or find another system that will work for you for many years!
Most of the time, (when the children were 2, 3, or 4 years old), it would have been easier to complete most of the chores myself. It took SO long to show them what to do, and how much could I expect from a preschooler? But, I knew, or hoped, that by training them at an early age, chores would become a habit, something that they didn’t even have to think about, just get them done.
That happened. It was the only normal that they knew. We had fun working together. We listened to music. We danced around as we worked. We told each other jokes. We made up stories about each other, and laughed and laughed.
The children got so proficient at doing the chores, their help actually helped!
They also seemed to gain confidence in their ability to learn new tasks, both inside and outside of our house.
They learned to enjoy working hard and reaping the results of that hard work. They developed a healthy pride in their work, and saw the benefit to the family.
The children also learned to value and take care of their possessions. They didn’t throw their clothing on the floor, because they had to do their own laundry. They learned to put their toys away, because they knew how it felt to be in charge of clean up, and find everyone’s toys everywhere!
I’ll share our chore system in tomorrow’s post!
What benefits have you found in teaching your children to help with chores around the house?
Last week one of my adult children remarked how strongly our snuggle time, from his youth, has affected his walk with Jesus.
When the children were young, and I was just plain exhausted, I would announce that it was snuggle time.
We would all gather on the sofa in the living room, and talk about life. We started when my first 4 children, all boys, were 5 years old and younger.
What does a 5, 3, and 1 year old, and a newborn have to say about life?
They usually just stared at me, as I recited a verse or two from the Bible.
I generally recited verses from Proverbs and Psalms.
I would explain what the verse(s) meant, and how it,(they), applied to their lives.
They would then talk for a few minutes, I would pray for them, we would hug each other, and hop off the sofa.
Five minutes. Maybe 10 at the most. But the impact was huge! Without intentionally trying to change their lives, the Word of God, was doing the job for me. God, through His word was teaching them how to live and act and not to act. They began to understand that Christianity was more than a religion. It is a life-style. Our life-style.
” Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
Here is a verse that we talked about many times during our snuggle times:
Psalm 56: 3-4
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise—
in God I trust and am not afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?”
We would talk about what it means to trust in God. We would talk about being afraid. We would talk about situations when they might feel afraid…. Swimming lessons, sleeping at a friends house, eating something new, going to a new Sunday School class etc.
We would role play how we could trust God when we’re afraid.
That’s it. Five to 10 powerful minutes.
Five to 10 minutes, 4 – 5 times a week, over 12-14 ish years adds up to a lot of godly wisdom.
That’s what my now, 29 year old son, was referring to!
Praise the Lord!
I’d love to read how you taught your children truths from God’s Word!
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