I think that most of us would be too embarrassed to admit it.
We are grateful for our children and we love them very much.
In fact we would do anything for them, but ………..
Sometimes we struggle with liking our child.
Maybe you have never felt this way, but there are many who do.
I met a mom 2 weeks ago who shared her disappointment in her disappointment. Yes. She was angry and disappointed in her frustration with her daughter. Her life long dream had come true. The mom had married her high school sweetheart and had 2 healthy children, an 8 year old boy and a 6 year old girl.
Her disappointment centered around her daughter. She had always wanted a girly- girl daughter. Ballet lessons, baby dolls, princess dress up clothes, etc. But her daughter was a tomboy. She had never wanted those things. She played with balls, built things with Legos, and excelled in sports.
Mom knew she shouldn’t be disappointed, but didn’t know how to deal with it.
I went through similar feelings with a couple of my children at various stages of their lives, although I never would have admitted it to anyone.
Then I read Psalm 139:13-18
13For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you.
Every human being is woven together, knit together, by our loving Heavenly Father. We are not random acts of DNA strands . Each of us has been planned and created special.
My children have characteristics and personality traits by design, not happenstance.
I can love them, train them, teach them about God’s word, and pray for them to fulfill their individual destinies, but I must remember that they are not mine. They are on loan.
And so, I can freely love them and accept them as they were knitted together.
Photo of my 2 year old granddaughter
It’s often hard for me to separate myself from my blog. So, when I found myself surrounded by moms of young children at Disney World last week, it just seemed right to ask the moms one question.
“What is your biggest challenge in raising your children?”
Interestingly enough, I asked 35 moms, and received 35 different answers.
How would you have answered me?
When my children were very young, I would have answered that my biggest challenge was keeping my house in order.
The first mom I asked was frustrated in her attempt to show individual attention to each of her four children. She asked me if I had any suggestions.
Here are some of the ways that my hubby and I used:
- hug and kiss each child every day before each meal and before bedtime
-affirm each child daily
-show off their artwork and awards on our ‘Wall of Fame’
-crown them king or queen for the day on the monthly anniversary of the date of their birthday (they can pick certain foods to eat and activities for the family for that day.)
-celebrate their birthday with a special breakfast in a restaurant with their dad
-allow each child their own under the bed storage box filled with their treasures, and a selection of toys/books that they don’t have to share
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