“How do you raise children who understand that the world does not revolve around them? How do you teach them to serve?”
My answer has been, and continues to be, the same. The only normal that our children know is what they see in their home as they are growing up. Children learn by doing. By living it. Does the family emphasize relationships and evangelism? Do they look at ‘serving’ as an integral part of everyday life?
If not, upon what does the family focus?
Is it their stuff? Is it their next vacation? Is it their employment?
A GREAT book that deals with this question, not only for our children, but for US, is Kristen Welch‘s, (from We Are That Family), new book Rhinestone Jesus, which will be released May 1.
I am part of the launch team for the book, and have just finished reading my copy. It is the story of a young wife and mom of 3 whose life changed after a trip to Kenya with Compassion International. She witnessed some horrific things that she could not forget. She saw people who needed God with skin. God was asking her to say a big YES, to HIM. In the midst of her daily life, God was asking the seemingly impossible, which could only be possible with HIM.
The book would be an excellent gift for Mother’s Day, but would be equally meaningful to all women.
I am so thankful that my parents lived out their Jewish faith. We lived in a modest home and spent much of our time and focus on those in need. My brother and I didn’t realize that not every family spends weekends helping the elderly, and that not every family worked at their local firehouse’s yearly bazaar, or that not every mother and daughter sewed and worked on crafts together to sell to raise money for the mentally challenged.
It wasn’t until I was 22 and had moved out of the family home to a different part of our state, did I realize that the people that I was meeting were not involved in volunteering opportunities. I was shocked. I immediately volunteered at a local nursing home and with the Office of Aging for the county in which I was living.
Marriage and children only increased the joy of serving. It became a time of family togetherness.
Am I listening to God? Would HE like me to do something new? Am I open to His leading? Am I willing to go outside of my comfort zone? Are my children listening to God?
I am agreeing with Kristen. I am saying yes in my mess. I will listen to God, and I HOPE and PRAY that my ‘yes’ takes on hands and feet and a voice to make the difference for HIM.
The book is a life changer. You can buy it here.
I am an Amazon affiliate, and will receive a small compensation if you decide to purchase the book from this blog. THanks
Our first trip to the emergency room wasn’t caused by deviant behavior. By 5 year old son was jumping up and down on his bedroom floor, and he lost his balance and hit his head on a radiator. I felt so sorry for him. It was a very painful accident.
Our second trip to the E.R. was caused by behavior that was completely unacceptable, and it caught me by surprise. The 3 year old was so angry at his 2 year old brother for taking his metal tractor, that he pulled it out of his hands and hit him over the head with it. Hard enough to require multiple stitches.
I was SO angry at the 3 year old. What was he thinking?????? He should have known better. I finally concluded that somehow it must be my fault. Maybe if I was watching more closely, or if I had talked to him about what to do if his brother ever takes his metal tractor without his permission, or …………..
Did I REALLY think that I could prevent all of my children’s hurts in life by being a better mom?
I wish someone had told me what I am about to tell you.
But that’s where parents come in.
Children WANT to please us. They want rules and boundaries. They NEED boundaries, and we as moms can help them. We need to role model correct behavior. We need to provide boundaries and corral them to stay on the narrow road. We need to encourage them and affirm them and love them into obedience!
It takes patience and time, and did I mention time and patience?
Role playing over and over again.
I’d love to read your thoughts!
More in my next post……………..
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