I had a quick conversation with a precious young mom at church today. She is in the midst of potty training her 2 year old, while anticipating the birth of her second child later this summer. It isn’t ‘working’ quite as quickly as she had hoped.
I assured her that everything that she is doing sounds perfect; her child just isn’t quite ready. There could be a 1000 reasons why it’s not working as she had hoped.
I made a short video describing the potty training system taught to me by my cousin. It has worked very well for my own children, those I babysit, and many others. You can watch it here.
However, if the process seems to be lingering, I have some suggestions…
-If there is NO success at all after a week or so of potty training, I would keep smiling, but stop the process. I would go back to diapers.
-If there are accidents, but progress, I would keep smiling, keep them in Pull-Ups, and have parent directed times to the potty every 30-60 minutes during the day. If they are successful. affirm them wildly. If they aren’t, affirm them wildly, ( :0 ) Keep smiling. Have a reward chart if they are successful, but restrain from saying anything negative if they aren’t.
-Don’t be disappointed if they aren’t dry after naps or first thing in the morning. When their body is ready, they will stay dry.
-Try not to introduce fear, or bargain with your children. Keep smiling and affirm them. Love never fails, even with potty training.
-Our children want to please us. I KNOW potty training can be extremely frustrating, and many of us are pregnant and uncomfortable while we are training, but, try to stay hopeful and encouraging. As with all aspects of motherhood, potty training is hard work.
-Remember that we have an audience of one, Jesus. If Jesus has placed children in our care, we are missionaries in our homes, training our children to help them fulfill their destinies in Him. Potty training is just part of the process.
– Pray, and ask God for wisdom in potty training, just like every other area of child training.
Let’s pray for the young mom in my church, and all of the moms potty training their children!
I concluded in my last post that I, as a mom, am not entitled to feel entitled. I then received two emails asking if I had advice for helping children defeat the ‘entitled mentality’ running rampant in our world today.
I DO have some tips:
-Memorize 2 Corinthians 5:15 as a family, and discuss it often. Explain that by helping others, and looking to the needs of others before our own, we are living as Jesus did…serving.
“15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.”
-Assign your children chores from an early age. (Age 2 is a great time to start) Teaching our children to work builds confidence, helps create a sense of accomplishment, and reinforces the importance of each member of the family unit.
-Serve others. A servant’s heart begins in our homes. Serving siblings and family members is a great way to start.
-Watching documentaries and DVDs of missionaries or from charities like World Vision or Compassion help to show our children how the majority of the world live, and why we need to grateful for our abundance, and be ‘others minded.’
-Affirm them generously when they act unselfishly! Encouragement and positive affirmation are powerful tools.
-Volunteer as a family. Our family helps one hour a month for the Office of Aging, and with holiday meal preparation at a local Hospice. What would be a fit for your family?
Kristen Welch from We are That Family wrote a great post about battling entitlement in our kids. You can read it here.
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