Have you thought about your childhood lately? I have. It’s sort of like a game. Pretend that you are in elementary school and you are walking into your house after a long day at school. Hopefully your home was functional, (as opposed to dis-functional), and was a source of security. Maybe even a haven. If so, why? What made it that way? I want my home to be a haven for my husband, children, and all that enter, so I’ve been thinking about it!
For the first five years that I was a mom, my house was so cluttered and disorganized, I did not practice hospitality. How horrible is that?! Long story short, a friend helped me de-clutter and get organized, and my life changed dramatically. I learned to control time and my stuff, so that time and clutter didn’t control me.
I still had a lot to learn to make my home ooze the love and acceptance that I hoped that people would feel as they entered. One of the biggest roadblocks to peace in my home was me. Unfortunately, that didn’t come as a huge surprise . 🙁
When dealing with my family, I would often react quickly with words that were judgmental or negative, instead of taking the time to think, calm down, and respond with grace and wisdom.
It didn’t matter how beautiful and comfortable my house was when I was shrieking or using my annoying, high pitched. whiny, mommy meddler voice! I had to choose to respond with respect and wisdom, with my calm voice, which often took me hours.
As with most things, practice helps!! My desire to have a home as comfortable, and filled with love, as my childhood home, was strong enough for me to change my behavior.
What helps you create a haven for your family??
I’ll share more of what I learned tomorrow!
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