Help. What do I do when my husband and I disagree? For the first year of my marriage I asked this question continually, and handled the situations in a very ungodly manner. Then my husband and I attended two Institute in Basic Conflict seminars which were taught by Bill Gothard, and we learned valuable information, which we continue to implement today. I have given examples of two situations in our marriage when we couldn’t agree, and how we handled it according to how we interpret scripture. You can find them here and here.
Today I’d like to give a third example. This is a very personal example involving one of our children, so I will need to be more vague, but I hope that the point is understood.
Many years ago, one of our children was hurt at the hands of an adult that we knew. I will not go into specifics. My husband and I were not in agreement as to what should be done. That is putting it mildly. I was insistent that we involve the police. He was admitantly opposed. We argued, (not a good thing), and then agreed to calm down for an hour and talk again. During that hour he prayed. I was too upset to pray. (How ridiculous is that?? I was, and am FAR from perfect!)
After an hour, I again insisted that we call the police. I explained that my ‘knower’ or ‘my intuition’ knew that we must do this. I believe with all of my being that what the world calls ‘a woman’s intuition’ is often actually the leading of the Holy Spirit. I have found that women, as nurturers, and very emotional and intuitive creations, can sometimes know things about people due to promptings from the Holy Spirit. That is what happened in this case with my child.
We often can’t explain the ‘whys’…. We just know.
We know that we know that we know.
In this instance, my husband agreed to call the police.
He trusted my leading.
It turned out that this adult had hurt other children and after we reported it many others whose children had also been hurt came forward.
The world can not make males and females any more equal than God has already created them , but I do believe that there is a clear course to take when hubbies and wives disagree.
I have found that a calm discussion followed by a husband making the final decision is a win – win situation.
I would love to hear examples from your life!