I wasn’t quite prepared for all of the responses that were generated by the last post. My intent was to encourage moms of tween and teen girls to talk to them about Titus 2. But several moms asked for me to post about what I do personally when my husband and I disagree. I’m not sure that I can adequately answer them here, but I’m going to try!
A better source might be a book that I authored and published called Recapturing the Joy of Motherhood that you can find here. It consists of over 80 pages of tips that I have gleaned from the Bible and from my last 20 years of being a mom to my 8 children, and wife to my adorable, farmer husband. It is available as a hard copy for the same price, (plus shipping), as the kindle and download edition. For the hard copy edition just email me, leave a comment on the blog, or leave a Facebook message.
As a newlywed, I was amazed how often I had to deny what I really wanted to do, and instead try to please my husband. I felt like a doormat. What happened to all of the rights I had when I was in my twenties, (before I was married) , or a teenager, or, come to think of it, ever since I was born, I could pick and choose what I wanted to do, under the authority of my parents. Now, all of a sudden I had to think of someone else 24 hours a day. Then, add a baby, and another, and another……I had NO IDEA how selfish I was until I got married.
Our disagreements became shouting matches. Me shouting at my husband while he remained soft -spoken and patient, (don’t you hate that!!! )
After reading several books from Focus on the Family, prayer, and some counseling sessions with my pastor’s wife, I came up with a system to handle disagreements with hubby. I’ll list the steps that we use tomorrow!