This is the third post in a series based on Titus 2, admonishing older woman to teach the younger women to love their husbands, as well as other good pieces of advice. After I published the first post, I was bombarded with requests asking how my husband and I PERSONALLY handle disagreements.
Here are the typical order of events when my husband and I disagree:
When we know after a short conversation that we have an issue upon which we disagree, we set aside a time when we can discuss it and each make our opinions known. We had to do this because unfortunately, I have a propensity to blow up quickly :( For some reason, especially in the past, I tend to assume that my husband is generally wrong, and I am usually right. Often it’s not even a matter of right or wrong, but I still want to be right, …..oh what an ugly flesh nature I have.
We might meet in 15 minutes, or at bedtime or even in a day or two when we can discuss it without an audience of our children.
After we each make our points, my husband makes the final decision if we can’t agree. We often settle for some type of compromise, or even for others to be involved in the decision, but the final decision is his. I will continue to pray about it, but not nag or whine.
I believe that it is biblical to submit and I have found, to my continual amazement, when we do things God’s way, the circumstances work out for the best of everyone involved. Sometimes I can’t see those results immediately, but looking back over the 29 years that we’ve been married, I see how God has worked through my submission over and over again. I have come to see that even if I am ‘right’, by submitting to my husband, things turn out the way I thought they should anyway, but we are BOTH happy.
The first year that I was married, if we didn’t do things my way, I nagged and nagged or sulked or whined. I was HORRIBLE to live with! My husband needed me to respect him. My behavior was inexcusable. Respecting our husbands goes a LONG way to make a marriage wonderful!
One of the best books that I read on the subject is called Men are Like Waffles and Women are Like Spaghetti by Bill and Pam Farrel. Here is a link for you to see the book. (I am not affiliated with the book or CBD in any way!)
Tomorrow I’ll give 3 examples of some heavy-duty disagreements that we’ve had over the years, and what happened!
The picture was taken several days ago on the boardwalk at Ocean City, N.J. My husband and I with one of our daughters!
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