Our Favorite Family Christmas Tradition

our family favorite christmas tradition

I’ve learned many things about raising children over the last 30 years.  One of the most important, is that I can lecture and teach them principles from God’s words, but unless I am living those things out in my life, day after day, my words will mean nothing.

I knew from the Bible that Jesus came not to be served but to serve, and we were to do likewise. (Matthew 20:25-28)

I also knew that if I could encourage my children to actually serve others, I wouldn’t have to teach them that serving and giving is better than receiving, they would  learn it by living it through the experience itself.

We got involved in several community welfare projects each year, but our favorite was at Christmas time. This became our favorite Christmas tradition, and we didn’t even have to leave our house!

We called this week (or 2 weeks), Secret Servant Week.

When my oldest son was about 7 or 8 years old, I instituted Secret Servant Week. The week before Christmas, I assigned each of my 4 sons a sibling to serve daily for the week. The goal was to serve their assigned sibling by secretly doing at least one of  their chores for them every day. At first, sneaking around was the fun part of each day. But after the first 3 or 4 days, the boys felt joy knowing that they were helping their sibling.

Generally, my children under age 5ish needed my help every day. Yes, it was more work for me, but it was well worth it.

After the first couple of years, the boys enjoyed it so much, we increased the time to 2 weeks!

As each new sibling was born, they were informed and included in the tradition.

I know that it took more than 2 weeks a year to teach my children the joy of serving, but this fun thing we created called Secret Servant Week, certainly helped!

I was thrilled to hear that all 8 of my children, when asked,  responded that their favorite Christmas tradition was our Secret Servant Week!

I have linked up with Kellyskorner to post about our family’s favorite Christmas tradition. You can read the Linky here.

I’m excited to read the other blogs that have joined the Linky party!

Bonni is the author of Mom By Example

About Bonni

What happens when a Jewish girl from Philadelphia falls in love with and marries a Christian hog farmer from a small rural town 85 miles from her home? Well, in my case, I became a Christian, but struggled to be the loving wife and joyful mother to my 4 young sons. This blog was born in order to share one tip a day that I learned, that could now help other moms learn to handle life with patience, grace and joy!