Sinners, But Oh So Cute!

Our first trip to the emergency room wasn’t caused by deviant behavior. By 5 year old son was jumping up and down on his bedroom floor, and he lost his balance and hit his head on a radiator. I felt so sorry for him. It was a very painful accident.

Our second trip to the E.R. was caused by behavior that was completely unacceptable, and it caught me by surprise. The  3 year old was so angry at his 2 year old brother for taking his metal tractor, that he pulled it out of his hands and hit him over the head with it. Hard enough to require multiple stitches.

I was SO angry at the 3 year old. What was he thinking?????? He should have known better. I finally concluded that somehow it must be my fault. Maybe if I was watching more closely, or if I had talked to him about what to do if his brother ever takes his metal tractor without his permission, or  …………..

Did I REALLY think that I could prevent all of my children’s hurts in life by being a better mom?

I wish someone had told me what I am about to tell you.

Children are born sinners. They may look totally adorable, but they are sinners. Sinners sin. Why are we surprised by their behavior? IMG_0595What do we expect? And..there are consequences of sin.

But that’s where parents come in.

Children WANT to please us. They want rules and boundaries. They NEED boundaries, and we as moms can help them. We need to  role model correct behavior. We need to provide boundaries and corral them to stay on the narrow road. We need to encourage them and affirm them and love them into obedience!

It takes patience and time, and did I mention time and patience?

Role playing over and over again.

I’d love to read your thoughts!

More in my next post……………..

 

Bonni is the author of Mom By Example

About Bonni

What happens when a Jewish girl from Philadelphia falls in love with and marries a Christian hog farmer from a small rural town 85 miles from her home? Well, in my case, I became a Christian, but struggled to be the loving wife and joyful mother to my 4 young sons. This blog was born in order to share one tip a day that I learned, that could now help other moms learn to handle life with patience, grace and joy!

6 thoughts on “Sinners, But Oh So Cute!

  1. This post brings back vivid memories of a time that in his anger my son spewed forth some garbage and it stung my heart to think “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks”. God gently reminded me of how we all have that sinful nature and although I knew that in my head it was still somehow painful to think of it in terms of my child being sinful – and yet it was also a comforting thing at the same time. I praise God that every one of us can clear the slate and begin anew upon our repentance and receiving His forgiveness!

    1. Amen Karen! I love the description that you used of a clean slate. That is such a perfect word picture. I used to take my boys’ misbehavior personally. I could never be a ‘good’ enough mother to keep them from sinning, but I didn’t realize that for a long time. You are so right, it is both painful and comforting to think about our sin nature. Praise the Lord that we are like clay pots and it is His power in us that makes the difference!

  2. Your post brings back memories! My kids are adults now but I remember one of my daughters birthday parties we had a pinata, and when it was my son’s turn to play, he took a swat with the stick at the birthday girl’s head! We got it on video and now laugh when we watch it, but boy did he get into trouble at the time! : )

    Discipline with wisdom and love is definitely important. Thanks for sharing this. I’m visiting from Wednesday prayer girl link-up.

    1. Cathy, thanks for taking the time to comment> I have to admit, I giggled after reading your pinata story, but I would have been horrified, as you were, at the time!! After reading your comment, I started thinking back to the times when I was especially mad at my children. Many of them, I can now laugh about, just as you can!! isn’t life interesting????

  3. Great post, Bonnie! I find it helpful (after the reminder that my children are sinners) to remind myself as well as my children that their sin is first against God. When I remember to put it in that perspective it helps me have the right compassion and grace when I have to bring consequences. We can’t keep our children from sinning, we can’t even perfectly keep from sinning ourselves, but we can be humble examples of what repentance looks like. Just today as I walked my kindergartner to the bus, I had to confess my sin. We prayed as we walked and I confessed my sin of lacking patience and speaking out of anger to my children to God and I asked Him to forgive me. I also confessed my sin to my daughter and asked for her forgiveness. I can’t save my children, but I pray that see God’s grace in my life and see that it is HIS GRACE and nothing I have done. I pray they also see that I KNOW that I am a sinner and work of sanctification in progress. Yes, role modeling is soo important in parenting,

    1. Thanks Heidi for taking the time to comment! Your comment is SO good, it could be a post!! I say a hearty AMEN to all that you said. As I’ve said many times before, the only normal that our young children know, is what they learn and see in their own homes. Admitting when we are wrong and asking for forgiveness is a powerful tool to help our children see the what repentance looks and feels like!! Thanks again for your inspirational and touching comment!!

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