Our first trip to the emergency room wasn’t caused by deviant behavior. By 5 year old son was jumping up and down on his bedroom floor, and he lost his balance and hit his head on a radiator. I felt so sorry for him. It was a very painful accident.
Our second trip to the E.R. was caused by behavior that was completely unacceptable, and it caught me by surprise. The 3 year old was so angry at his 2 year old brother for taking his metal tractor, that he pulled it out of his hands and hit him over the head with it. Hard enough to require multiple stitches.
I was SO angry at the 3 year old. What was he thinking?????? He should have known better. I finally concluded that somehow it must be my fault. Maybe if I was watching more closely, or if I had talked to him about what to do if his brother ever takes his metal tractor without his permission, or …………..
Did I REALLY think that I could prevent all of my children’s hurts in life by being a better mom?
I wish someone had told me what I am about to tell you.
But that’s where parents come in.
Children WANT to please us. They want rules and boundaries. They NEED boundaries, and we as moms can help them. We need to role model correct behavior. We need to provide boundaries and corral them to stay on the narrow road. We need to encourage them and affirm them and love them into obedience!
It takes patience and time, and did I mention time and patience?
Role playing over and over again.
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More in my next post……………..