What Does ‘Be Angry and Sin Not’ Look Like?


What does the Bible mean when it says to be angry but don’t sin?

When is it OK to be angry?

What does OK anger look like and act like?

Ephesians 4:26

New King James Version (NKJV)

26 “Be angry, and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath,…..”

OR, a different translation:

The Message (MSG)

26-27 Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.

I have struggled with anger as long as I can remember.

Recently, I’ve been learning to get to the root of my anger issue. It’s been quite an interesting journey.

One of the most fascinating things that I’ve discovered, is that . . .

it’s not what happens to me that stirs up my anger, but what I say to myself about it.

If I start telling myself that “I didn’t deserve that, or how could they dare ______, or who do they think they are, or how many times do I need to ____ ,”  I will fuel my anger.

If I ask myself why I am getting angry and try to determine the root cause, I can diffuse the anger very quickly.

  • Am I putting someone or something in a place that should only be held by God?
  • Am I angry at the total person, and not the sinful thing that they did?
  • Am I angry because I am embarrassed, fearful, or proud?

Jesus does not like my sin, and yet he gave His life for me. He didn’t reject me or get angry with me. He hates my sin and yet loves me, the sinner.

Understanding more about what makes God angry, and how He deals with it, has changed the way I view my children when they do something wrong.

More about the ‘when is it OK to be angry’ and ‘be angry and sin not’ in the next post.

I’d love to read your views!


Bonni is the author of Mom By Example

About Bonni

What happens when a Jewish girl from Philadelphia falls in love with and marries a Christian hog farmer from a small rural town 85 miles from her home? Well, in my case, I became a Christian, but struggled to be the loving wife and joyful mother to my 4 young sons. This blog was born in order to share one tip a day that I learned, that could now help other moms learn to handle life with patience, grace and joy!

2 thoughts on “What Does ‘Be Angry and Sin Not’ Look Like?

  1. Bonnie,
    I met you at the New Danville Mennonite Church Smile group this spring! I think you are so great and full of wisdom. I do not have any women in my life that share their experiences the way you do! Anyway…. I find that I get angry when more than one child is either nagging, crying, fighting or just bouncing off the walls. Sadly I will get angry very quickly and the next thing I know; I am yelling at EVERYONE ( the pets and my poor husband too). I don’t really understand why I do this and I so desperately want to be calm and gentle with my family( I love my husband and all 4 children with every fiber of my being) and of course I LOVE God and want to follow his will) but I still get angry. I have noticed that the children have picked up my facial expressions and some of the mean things I say. I NEED to change! I don’t want to hurt their feelings!

    1. Dear Becky…..welcome to the human race!! You are 100% human and on your way to greatness! Really!!! We have ALL been there. I was so angry and unhappy in my first 5 years as a mom, that I ran away. How’s that for a model mother??? That’s the subject of my first book, Recapturing the Joy of Motherhood. God is so faithful though, despite our mistakes and wrong choices. Todays post, will hopefully help you with the anger and the children issue. It’s what I learned after I returned home from my little ‘running away episode.’ Thanks for taking the time to comment!

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